We all ask this question, even if only in our minds. The difficult truth, of course, is that no one can give you a guaranteenot your surgeon, not your oncologist. But you have far better odds than you may think. Most women with breast cancer in the United States survive more than five yearsthe yardstick used by most doctors.

Our suggestion? Do a lot of research! Go on the Internet or to the local library. Take notes. You'll feel more in control if you're informed, and it will help you ask the right questions to get the answers you need from your doctors. Some doctors may not offer to show you your pathology report showing the type of cancer you have and information on how far it has spread. Ask for it! Some doctors may not offer you all the treatment choices. Others may lay out every possible choice, then say the decision is up to you. Either way, you'll feel more confident if you've done your own research.

Also make sure you talk to other survivors. Go on the Internet and visit message boards for breast cancer survivors. Just post the question: Anyone out there who was diagnosed 10or even 20years ago? You'll be amazed by all the women who answer you. They can offer you the hope and courage you need now.